(Ms. Monisa Qadri was born and raised in Srinagar. She matriculated from Mallinson School for Girls and studied bio-chemistry at the Women's College, Srinagar. She is presently a mass communications student at the Kashmir University, and also works in the Corporate Communications and Public Relations Department of the J&K Bank. She writes as a freelancer and hopes to be a journalist some day. Her interests are public relations and film making.)
Transitions are too normal! Life is ever-changing. The journey continues from one stage to next, thus proving only one thing-‘permanence of change itself’. It is interesting to see how one adapts to these different set-ups, which initially seem so unfamiliarly strange. Perhaps it is more natural than a deliberate effort by a person to understand and behave according to the required definitions and protocol. But, time holds with it, its beautiful key. This happens and is surely expected to happen in such a way. This happens with everyone; you and of-course ‘me’. Till recently, my concerns were purely academic, my goals- pretty unclear, my career’s vision still to emerge clearly, but now, as they say, ‘everything is official about it’. The path is visibly there and I can visualize it- I presume!
There were times when I learnt for seeking knowledge, for clearing exams, for self-appraisal and at times even for fun, but now I learn to earn. Not that one ceases to be a student any longer, and starts thinking like a logical automaton, or feels it beyond his privilege to have tempting liberties in life. But things get somewhat defined and decided. As a professional, my job is assigned; I have a specific role to play, which always has to fall in line with the interests of either me or my organization, as the two are synonymous, at least to me.
Career is one of the biggest concerns in a human life and is destined to bring-in changes that are high in intensity and wide in impact. It is a changeover from the life of ‘perceived’ freedom and self-dependence to the world of responsibilities and proper sense of belonging with some set-up. Suddenly, one sees a shift from the casual classroom humor to the serious and professional outlook. A person enters into a horizon where he is supposed to apply what he or she once incurred or was bestowed with or may be at times thrust upon him or her.
The set of feelings you had while asking for your monthly allowance no longer bother you; nor do the thoughts of being a dependent parasite haunt you any more. The confusion about tomorrow becomes pretty subtle. However, interestingly, the paradoxical reality is that your best friends are no longer around to tickle your emotions and there are no pranks that can enthrall you and you can still get away with them. Moreover, now it is not only about you, but there is more and life beyond ‘I’, ‘me and ‘myself’…